BULLETIN BOARD: Advice, Tips,
This Inquiring Mind Wants to Know...
Why we are not spending more time educating our young people
to sharpen their instincts and STAY SAFE!!
going to write about the movie, Bridesmaids, (which I will next week) but I am too frustrated and angry about yet
another college student gone missing: Lauren Spierer, an Indiana University Sophmore
was last seen walking barefoot from a friend's apartment at 4:30am on Friday, June 3rd. The Mama Bear in me comes out loud
and furious every once in a while, and this is one of those times! We have colleges full of wonderful, bright, engaging
young people who know squat about keeping themselves safe!!!! This is ridiculous! Come on young people!!!!! Wake up and
smell the danger!!!!
I grew up in New York City. It is a street city. I learned street smarts by walking, getting
on and off subways and buses, having to mingle with people all day. And I developed sharp instincts about what did
not feel or look right. I also worked in the music business. I had to go and listen to bands until 3 in the morning. I would
take a cab home and have him wait until I was in my apartment building. And I had a fellow late nighter call to make sure
I got into my apartment.
Lots of college kids, however, grow up in small towns or suburbs. When kids go everywhere
by car, there is no way to develop street smarts. It is hard enough to learn how to deal with heavy pedestrian traffic!
Put all that together with drinking and partying, and we end up with a clueless, naïve, seriously endangered species-no
matter how intelligent they may otherwise be!!!!
This Inquiring Mind Really Wants to Know why we are
not spending more time educating our young people to sharpen their instincts and STAY SAFE!! Think about it! When they
are very young, we hold their hands while crossing the street. Why? Because the cars and traffic are dangerous. We
tell them, ad nauseam NOT to talk to strangers. Why? Because who knows what that stranger really wants. We pick them up
from parties and drop them off at activities. But somehow when they grow older, we disconnect, and fail to teach them
how to keep themselves safe. And while there are a myriad of ads, articles, interviews about the consequences
of smoking, doing drugs, sexting, and unprotected sex, why isn’t there also a concerted campaign to educate our teens
about personal physical safety? And if we can walk for Breast Cancer awareness, raise money for impoverished children around
the world, be door to door activists for all sorts of environmental and social policies, why can we also figure out how
to keep our college kids in the USA safe!!!!!
We are going to have to come together as a concerned community
and look out for high school and college kids when they are out and about on their own.
We do not let our friends drive
drunk. We should not be letting any young girl walk home alone at 4:30 in the morning!!! No world is safe at 4:30am!
I do not care where it is!!!!
Parents must to prepare their teenagers.
The community needs to watch college
College peers have to start sharing responsibility for each other’s safety.
In middle school start conversations about staying safe and continue to have
them all through high school. I’ll bet a 6th grader has more of an idea of how to stay away from a car than a
high school senior or college freshman!
BEFORE your daughter goes off to college:
1) Insist she enroll in a self-defense course.
A 5 ft, size 2 freshman better know how to get away from a much bigger and heavier predator!
2) Have a serious
-What if you drink too much and you are in a bar, and the bar is closing and you
need to get back to your apartment, what should you do?
-What if you are driving home late at night and an unmarked car
with a siren tells you to pull over? What should you do?
-What if you think someone is following you, what should
3) Let your daughter know the DO NOTS of Bar Life!
As in: DO NOT EVER leave your drink! If
you have to, get a new one.
someone go to the bar and bring back a drink for you at the table.
Only a waiter or waitress should serve you a drink. It takes two seconds to slip a pill into your glass.
DO NOT EVER go off with someone you just met! This is dangerous stupidity! If you are too drunk to be smart then a friend
needs to intervene!
FRIENDS should NOT let FRIENDS
get into some strange guy’s car, or go to some strange guy’s apartment. If the guy is nice, there will be a
We parents need to get our kids' heads out of their high school diplomas and into streets smarts!!!
We can organize to have the local police department come and give high school seniors a crash course on personal physical
safety. This talk should be mandatory for all college freshmen.
It is now summer. Time to get ready for
involved in your teen’s safety!
Get your teen involved in her own safety!
Get the college involved in student
Get the community at large involved in young people’s safety.
I do not want to roar like this!
It doesn’t feel good, but I care too much to see another girl go missing when it can be prevented!
a watchful community instead of having to form a search party!
Go onto Safety Bulletin Board for more tips on how to stay safe. Margo@MomOpinionMatters.Com
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While driving on a
rural end of the roadway on Thursday morning, I saw an infant car seat on the side of the road with a blanket draped over
it. For whatever reason, I did not stop, even though I had all kinds of thoughts running through my head. But when I got to
my destination, I called the Canton PD and they were going to check it out. But, this is what the Police advised even before
they went out there to check....
"There are several things to be aware of ... gangs and thieves are now plotting
different ways to get a person (mostly women)to stop their vehicle and get out of the car.
"There is a gang initiation
reported by the local Police Department where gangs are placing a car seat by the road...with a fake baby in it...waiting
for a woman, of course, to stop and check on the abandoned baby.
"Note that the location of this car seat is
usually beside a wooded or grassy (field) area and the person -- woman -- will be dragged into the woods, beaten and raped,
and usually left for dead. If it's a man, they’re usually beaten and robbed and maybe left for dead, too.
DO NOT STOP FOR ANY
DIAL 9-1-1 AND REPORT WHAT YOU SAW, BUT DON'T EVEN SLOW DOWN.
"IF YOU ARE DRIVING AT NIGHT
AND EGGS ARE THROWN AT YOUR WINDSHIELD, DO NOT STOP TO CHECK THE CAR, DO NOT OPERATE THE WIPER AND DO NOT SPRAY ANY WATER
BECAUSE EGGS MIXED WITH WATER BECOME MILKY AND BLOCK YOUR VISION UP TO 92.5%, AND YOU ARE THEN FORCED TO STOP BESIDE THE ROAD
AND BECOME A VICTIM OF THESE
THIS IS A NEW TECHNIQUE USED BY GANGS, SO PLEASE INFORM YOUR FRIENDS
THESE ARE DESPERATE TIMES AND THESE ARE UNSAVORY INDIVIDUALS WHO WILL TAKE DESPERATE MEASURES TO GET
WHAT THEY WANT."
Please talk to your loved ones about this. This is a new tactic used.
Please be safe.
Get started NOW -- SEND THIS MESSAGE TO ALL YOUR FRIENDS AND LOVED ONES TO BE CAREFUL AND AWARE
AROUND THEM SO AS NOT TO BECOME A VICTIM.
Do not have anyone buy you a drink, bring it to the table, and hand it to you! Buy your own drink and watch it go from the
bartender/waiter to your hands .If you have to use the ladies room, then
order a fresh drink when you get back. If you are dancing, and leave your drink on the table, do not go back to it.
while this might be expensive, it is the safest way to go clubbing and avoid anything being slipped into your drink. Never,
never, never go off with a guy you just met! This is dangerously foolish! Most likely, you will be a little tipsy.
You might not be focused enough to know where you are going, and you certainly won't be able to write anything down! Take
a taxi to another club. Always have a friend/partner. Never allow a friend to go alone with someone strange, because
your friend thinks he's nice and cute he's cute and she wants to have some alone time. Even if you have been socializing with
a guy for several days at the beach-HE IS STILL A PERFECT STRANGER. YOU KNOW NOTHING ABOUT HIM. AND YOU WOULD HAVE NO
IDEA IF HE IS LIEING THROUGH HIS TEETH! Please have a healthy suspicion about anyone you meet for the first time. That
means having healthy mistrust. I want you street smart and safe!!!!NOT SEXUALLY ASSAULTED OR DEAD!
REALITY CHECK:: IF YOU GET WASTED OR HIGH YOU CANNOT PROTECT YOURSELF. YOU WILL HAVE NO
CONTROL OVER YOUR CIRCUMSTANCES. THINK ABOUT THIS BEFORE YOU GO OUT TO PARTY. HAVE A PLAN.
ALERT ALERT ALERT-WHO TO CALL?
3 Dickinson State softball teammates disappear in North
Dakota. They make frantic calls to a friend that they need help.
They are near water. They are found dead in their car in a pond not far from campus.
Ok. I think that when we turn the clocks back, and change the batteries in our smoke
we should also update safety measures with our children
young and older.
We are always telling our
very young children not to talk to strangers, not to get near a car, not to go off with anyone. Right?
What do we tell our teenagers or our college kids? Nothing a lot of the time.
So, I am proclaiming Spring Break safety check time. Teenagers
and college kids please read! Parents, please have this conversation with your sons and daughters.
1) WHO TO CALL?
If you feel you are in danger-
DO NOT CALL home/parents/relatives/or
CALL THE POLICE!
You might only have time for ONE CALL
It should be TO THE POLICE who HAVE THE RESOURCES TO FIND AND RESCUE YOU.
WHERE ARE YOU?
You should always KNOW YOUR SURROUNDINGS
you are in a strange area-
DETAILS OR SIGNS. ANYTHING THAT COULD HELP A RESCUER FIND YOU IF NEEDED
If you get into a car with friends or strangers-
Make sure you KNOW WHERE YOU ARE GOING.
ALWAYS HAVE A PEN AND PAPER in order to write something down and/or leave a note.
KNOW THE LICENSE PLATE of any car you are in--JOT IT DOWN.
WATCH FOR STREET/ROAD SIGNS.
If you have car emergency, CALL A POLICE OPERATOR (911) say:
I'm alone, I'm out of gas, I'm nervous, and what do I do?
Also, if you are driving alone, on the road, at night, and you see flashing lights, maybe even a siren behind you,
DO NOT PULL OVER!! Call the police # (911) on your cell phone,
Tell the OPERATOR that there is a car with lights and siren behind you, and you're not sure
if it is real—
The OPERATOR will check, and tell you, and, if need be, SEND A PATROL
CAR to your immediate rescue.
*STREET SMARTS 101 for all our daughters!
DESIGNATED CHECK-IN FRIEND!
Two girls who plan to go out to bars and clubs, need a third person to act as a contact—who will
know where they are, where they are going, etc. Friends don't let friends drive drunk. Friends don't let friends go out and
get drunk without another sober friend who can keep track of their whereabouts.
your daughters think about a "designated check-in friend" who can make sure they are
#2 HOW TO AVOID A CARJACKING FOR ALL WOMEN**
FROM: Shannon LaForge Courtroom Deputy
to Judge Robert Junell U.S. District Court Subject: FW: Women take heed Because of these recent abductions in daylight hours,
refresh yourself of these things to do in an emergency situation... This is for you, and for
you to share with everyone you know.. After reading these 9 crucial tips, forward them to someone
you care about. It never hurts to be careful in this crazy world we live in.
1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the
strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do!
2. Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans.
If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you.... chances are that
he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN
LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!
3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights
and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This
has saved lives.
4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their
checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON'T DO THIS!) The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity
for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON
AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.